Warning: Four Ways to Exasperate Your Children

Pastor Doran preached his third sermon in the series on “Getting Your House in Order” from Colossians 3:20-21 this morning. It should be up on his sermonaudio page  Monday sometime.  If you weren’t here, you should definitely listen to it. 

Very helpful were his shepherding points of application: Four ways to exasperate or dishearten your children.

  1. Change the rules constantly and do it without any rhyme or reason. (Often changes are based on the mood of the parent)
  2. Set unrealistic expectations based on your dreams and out of touch with their reality. (every parent thinks their child is the next “it,” making them think they are only successful if they achieve “x.”
  3. Focus only or mainly on their failures. (This is particularly a problem for dad’s, who often only focus when there is a problem).
  4. Worry more about what people think of you than about what is going on in your child’s life. (This will lead to your children becoming people pleasers).

Also, from a postive standpoint:

  1. Set wise boundaries and maintain them with discernment. Pay attention to what really matters. Emphasize the one overriding expectation–to love and serve the Lord.  Success is about that, not about achieving something in this world.
  2. Correct your children–don’t criticize them.
  3. Commend them often.
  4. Remind yourself as a parent often that your final assessment is from the Lord. 
  5. Remember that if anything good happens it is of the grace of God. Don’t be a proud parent with all the answers for every child.

May God in His grace help us!


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